7 April 2017
I Married a Mexican
Have you ever heard the saying “Monkey see, Monkey do?” Well Sandra Cisneros wrote a novel called Never Marry a Mexican. The novel has a fair share of little hints of how messed up parenting then it could affect the rest of a child’s life. The little girl who was affected by this type of parenting was named Clemencia. In the background story, the author gives a short explanation on Clemencia’s family, and how she started to think cheating was okay. When the young girl grew up, she started cheating with a married man named Drew. Cheating is a very horrible relationship conflict, but for some people, it is not a big deal, just like it is not a big deal for the main character in Never Marry a Mexican.
The story is written in first person, and the main character is telling the story. Using this style of writing is important because readers learn of a personal account throughout the duration of the story. In the beginning, Clemencia gives a history or back story on her family. This history foreshadows the rest of the events and gives a sense that the daughter does the same thing the mother did.
When Clemencia tells how she grew
up, she explains how her father was from a proud Mexican family and felt he married below him since her mother was half American and was not full Mexican. To Clemencia, it seemed to her that her father’s family showed off on how proud of Mexicans they were. She stated in the story, “I Imagine my father in his fanfaron clothes, because that’s what he was a fanfaron” (Cisneros). Fanfaron means show off, so the little girl thought her father’s family was really self-adsorbed. The mother also said about the father,” Never marry a mexican, my ma said once and always. She said this is because of my father.” (Cisneros,69) The mother did not like him so much she resorted to cheating when she had the chance, she was even the parent that taught her cheating was okay. Her mother cheated on her father when he was bed ridden. She cheated with her coworker that who white. Clemencia saw only part of her mother’s affair and the aftermath of that, but did not see the emotional portion often affecting those involved for many years. This had a large impact on what Clemencia understands about cheating.
During the series of events, the reader notices a pattern form. The pattern is just what the title says: “Never Marry a Mexican.” The mom is showing the young girl just that. She shows the little girl to never marry a Mexican and end up being unhappy, and that full blooded nationalities means something to commitment. The other example she gives is when the mom does go off and cheats on her dad because not with a Mexican at all. It is with a white man. Those are prime two examples that readers should analyze the meaning of what the tittle says.
Out of nowhere, Clemencia starts talking about a guy named Drew. Drew is a married man, and he and Clemencia secretly hook up on the side. She was used to seeing this type of relationship; dating someone who is already in a relationship, from her mom’s example. Drew and Clemencia even go as far as to hook up in Drew’s marriage bed while the wife is at the hospital giving birth to his son. Then Clemencia states,” While his mother lay on her back laboring his birth, I lay in his mother’s bed making love to you” (Cisneros, 75) then of course cheating will always leads to unanticipated disappointment
After they hook up, while his wife is in the hospital giving birth Clemencia starts to feel a little bad for what she is doing. A short while longer she wants the two to just simply get a divorce. But just like every man cheating on his wife, he is only in it for the thrill and does not want to leave his perfect little life with the wife and new baby for some chick. This makes Clememcia really sad because she saw how her mother just dropped her father for the man she was cheating on with, and she wanted Drew to do the same thing.
Finally, before the last time they go to hook up, she gets through her mind that if he is not going to break up with his wife on his own then she will just make them break up. When she goes over there for the last time, she plans on leaving gummy bears. She does not leave the gummy bear in just any spot Drew can see. She decides to leave them in places only the wife would be able to find them. She puts them in spots such as her makeup kit, her side of the bathroom and in her jewelry box. But who really sees a gummy bear and thinks anything suspicious, so in the end her plan did not work out in her favor?
Years and years go by and Clemencia did not get Drew and his wife to break up. Clemencia wants to get back at Drew for not breaking up at his wife. So in her mind it seemed like she was thinking of the best way to get back at him. Then she looked at his son who is just about to graduate high school. After a while, she seduces him and makes love to him. When she is done with his son, she realizes that she is over her love for Drew and stops sleeping with his son.
As a result, one will get to see the true meaning behind the title. How one see that is first exemplified by the mother. She married a fully proud Mexican and during the marriage, he always though he was better than her because the mother was half American. When the father is bed ridden, the mother goes out and cheats on her husband with a white man. Then the main character fast forwards to the part where she is making love to Drew while he has a wife. She and Drew even goes has far has cheating on his wife while she is giving birth to their baby. If Clemencia’s mother not cheat on her dad, the main character would never thought to make love to a man while he is married. Cheating is a destructive event, but for some people, it is not even a big deal, just like it is not a big deal for the main character in Never Marry a Mexican.
“Never merry a mexican.” Sandra Cisneros. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Apr. 2017.
Curiel, Barbara Brinson. “Sandra Cisneros, Woman Hollering Creek and Other Stories.” Reading U.S. Latina Writers (2003): 51-60. Web.