I am a soon to be mother, well there is still a long way to go. There are many things that worry me about the future, to be sincere this will be my first child, so I am a new to the whole raising a child. When it’s your first you begin to think about everything, and anything you can possibly think of. I start to reminisce about how I was when I was a kid, learning everything, as well as my husband, he thinks about what he did as a kid and we both just start questioning things like, “is that how our kid will be?” So, I can speak for the both of us by admitting that we were terrible, especially when we were teenagers. Know as we lay in bed thinking about our future with a baby on the way, we just start talking about how we were to our parents, and knowing and remembering a lot of things. The whole idea just makes us aware that we will go through tough times with this first one and maybe more or less with other future kids. So yes, I am worried to a point that I think about my son or daughter being at that stage, the adolescence stage, where controlling what he or she does might be the difficult part. I know because we all went through that stage, that part that for some reason some of us were not very nice to our parents. Now that I’m expecting, it’s my turn to re-live that story. Either he or she, will be like a recording tape, learning everything, seeing everything, watching his or her surroundings. There is a certain age where control or trying to have some control will be difficult, every parent to my knowledge has always struggled with this stage, I know because I still see my mom struggling with all my three smaller siblings, and as I see I now start thinking that in ten years or so my child will be in the same position. So, to me it’s like looking through a glass that shows me my future. My concern is that when it’s time to have control over what he or she will be watching on television, that’s a struggle mostly all parents can say that was difficult. From what I’ve seen is that at a very young age parents tend be less flexible in what he or she watches because it’s cute and yet it seems harmless. I am not saying it’s bad, because watching television can make learning a bit simpler. On the other hand, once they start thinking for themselves, they get a hold of the remote control and change the channel to something different, and as they grow they get used to the idea of having more control over themselves and what they can watch, that’s when their aggressive behavior kicks in, when a mom or dad starts telling him or her, “no you cannot watch that!”. So, my questions are; for one is a teenager having control of what he or she watches give a chance to become an aggressive teen? Secondly what a teenager watches on television makes them prone to act upon the actions on TV? Lastly if its occurring how can we solve this problem? Should parents have more control? Or should we just wait and see how a teen can make decisions on his or her own?

Television is the greatest invention, and without a doubt it will get easier to access almost anything on television. Television is no longer black and white but in color and there are so options. When it comes to buying a TV, the whole family gets very excited, especially if it’s a smart TV. Today almost everyone has a television either poor or rich, but almost everyone has one. There is nothing against television, because it’s a very good source of communicating with the world, for example the news, where you can learn about what’s going on in your surroundings, or the government, also what is unknown. Either far away or close the news will let you know, so television is not bad but the way we use it can either be to make us tvknowledgeable, or more prone to listen and act upon those actions. The question is if a teenager having control of what he or she watches give a chance to become an aggressive teen? The start is with handing a teenager a remote control, what he or she decides to watch is what parents allow. Young people average 16 to 17 hours of viewing weekly, beginning as early as age 2. Teenagers may spend as many as 35 to 55 hours in front of the television set (Strasburger and Donnerstein 129) Those hours alone can mean that teens can watch almost anything. Young people view an estimated 10,000 acts of violence each year, that also includes viewing nearly 15,000 sexual references, innuendos, and jokes (Strasburger and Donnerstein 129). This means that these things can contain obscene, and bad language that teens can process and learn. Not only can media violence facilitate aggressive or antisocial behavior, it may also desensitize viewers to future violence… (Strasburger and Donnerstein 129). It may not be a direct lead to aggressive behavior but it’s one of many reasons why teens decide to act out. The U.S leads all industrialized nations in homicides. One fourth of the violent scenes on television involve use of a handgun (Strasburger and Donnerstein 131). This means that what is happening on television can at time be inappropriate for some teens, and its result can be a struggle. What is broadcast on television cannot be control because fighting a big corporation that makes millions of dollars can be difficult, but just because parents cannot control what can and can’t be aired on television does not mean that teens can watch whatever they want. Boundaries and setting rules can be of some help.

What teens see, is what he or she will be able to show. Every step they take is part of learning from what it’s good and bad. Just like everyone had to go through their teen years so will our future kids. Just like what we saw when we were kids we took that and even though it was not okay sometimes we did things without knowing until our parents step in to let us know what we were doing wrong. Once a teen begins to think on its own it rarely relies on his or her parents for what he knows is right and wrong. At this point parents start to think that maybe he or she might be making good decisions. But as we all known not every decision a teen make is for good. This makes me think on what a teen can and should be watching. Is relaying on their decision making be a good idea to give them more freedom over what they watch on television? And what a teenager watches on television makes them prone to act upon the actions on TV?  So, the age of the viewer and the way the viewer perceives the violence, is critical in the overall effect onimpact-of-tv the child (Hopkins 354). Depending on the age they tend to retain information with more accuracy. The affect for aggression are not necessary connected to watching television, although just like watching anything for example movies with thrill, we get an adrenaline that makes us think about how awesome it would be if we were there. It is a fact that television is a major part of children’s lives. A Rand Corporation Study revealed that 60% of mothers of first graders to not restrict television time for their children (Hopkins 354). There could be many possibilities in letting a younger person sit in front of a television. Some reasoning may come to those parents who come home very tired and they also have responsibilities for the house chores, and making dinner, and time is not available to spend with their kids. A television can be connected to a game console for example and this machine are becoming more advanced technologically speaking.  Over time, games have become more realistic and lifelike, and games with human characters had more effect than abstract violence. Thus, differences in the types and quality of violence being portrayed should be considered (Browne and Hamilton-Giachritsis 704). This game can be very addicting, knowing first had what happens when someone gets their hands on one of this can have an effect it may not be directly seen, but the behavioral attitude begins to change in a slow progression. Individuals with mental health problems might believe the images they see and transpose representations of violent behavior onto themselves, affecting their view of self and others around them. However, no firm conclusions can be drawn based on the little research done in this area (Browne and Hamilton-Giachritsis 705). On the other hand, these people with problems may have mental effects there is not much that has been tested, thus there is no certainty that this test coming from a different group can mean that the effect on people with no special need may have more behavioral problems. However, there is only weak evidence from correlation studies linking media violence directly to crime (Browne and Hamilton-Giachritsis 708). Even though there is not enough evidence to prove that there are link of criminal behavior to television, the behavior in teens is still seen by how they react to parents trying to block certain types of unwanted explicit viewings on televisions, there is a certain age for everything and for young kids they should wait until they get to an age that is appropriate for them to be able to watch what is based on their age.

Know that we know how much television can affect a teenager’s life, especially in their early stages of childhood, as result we can now agree that a direct affect is not certain possibility but it can indirectly effect a teens development in life. As a child, they get that privilege to watch what they want, and as they grow they get a bit reluctant when parents try to be more restricting.  The last questions are, how can parents try to control an occurring problem that affects a teenager’s early development? Should parents have more control? Or should we just wait and see how a teen can make decisions on his or her own? The availability of video film, satellite, and cable TV in the home allows children to access violent media inappropriate to their age, developmental stage, and mental health (Browne and Hamilton-Giachritsis 707) the type of access children have in their home can affect their learning process. Children are like a recording tape, whatever they see or watch they also try to imitate it, and at this stage parents need to be very careful about what they hear and see. These problems occur after school, when they are either at home or at a friend’s house. Meanwhile parents are working or busy, kids tend to either go straight to their room and watch television or go to a friend’s house to do the same, not to mention the weekends and or when they are out of school, for example summer. To try to minimize the problem parents can have their kids join in after school programs and while they are out for summer they can make activities for them to get preoccupied in other things instead of having them inside the house all the time watching television.   About television viewing, youth in a supervised activity program had significantly lower mean minutes of weekday television watching than children in all other groups. These students watched just over 90 minutes (1.6 hours) of television on weekdays compared to 3 hours or more television for youth in all other settings (Moore, PhD, Shores, Watts, PhD and Yin, PhD 52) This study provides us with important information, to how important it is for children and teens can be involved in other activities besides just being at home. Supervised afterschool activities offer opportunities for physical recreation that might not exist at home (Mahoney, Larson, & Eccles, 2005) which is especially relevant for children who return home from school to rural areas where opportunities are limited (Shores, Moore, & Yin, 2010). There is nothing better than having children/ teens become more active outside in sports or maybe just get outside to play and become healthy and their behavioral functions become better. As they grow to their adult life they will take the example parents give and do the same with their own kids.

In conclusion, it is up to the parents how they want to raise their own kids. To be more singular, it is up to me how I decide to raise my kid. As I said earlier television is not a bad invention but neither is it a good idea to have a kid watch T.V the whole time. As a result, the cognitive function is still evolving as children also as teenagers, so what they see or hear is what how they act. Television is not a direct connection to behavioral problems but neither is it something we can ignore. As a future parent, I can say that I will not be so perfect, but neither should I just throw the towel and say, “ooh well let the world do what it wants with my kid.” Whatever we teach them is whatever they will present to their adult life. Television is not the main cause for bad behavior but if parents can try to control one problem at a time then maybe we can try to break down all those other big issues. It is very important that children and teenagers get involved with activities such as sports, or some type of art, this way they have something to do and they can stay active so later they can become more productive. As they grow the way they function becomes more aware and their abilities to do work become more active. As a future mother, there are many things I will need to learn, and one of them is dealing with a teenager in the future and for some reason my mind keeps going on that stage, maybe because of how I was and it scares me the fact that my child might be like me or maybe even worst. My mother had to punish me so many times for not doing what she asks, especially when those moments came where I had to turn off the television to go to bed, that was a struggle for my mom. So, I do think a lot but also, I think that even though it was hard for her, I feel that I came out not too bad, as an adult I don’t watch much television because I don’t have one but neither am I desperate to want to watch television the whole time.

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