17 June 2018
Obnoxious driving; explicit language in public; children screaming inside of the cart at Walmart; a giant mess of trash left on a table in the food court; no eye contact as children’s eyes are glued to electronics avoiding any physical social interaction. The first instinct is, who raised these children? The assumption is if rules or discipline were applied to these children, they would not act this way. No restrictions on the new generation that develops as fast as technology evolves causes parents to lose track of teaching and allow them to do whatever is desired. According to research, millennial moms are taking the less structured approach on discipline; rather they are being involved with the digital media age and focusing their lives around it, cutting attention to their children’s being and focusing on what pictures to post for other people to see. (“Resilience Parenting”) .
What is discipline? Discipline is defined as the practice of correcting behavior. It provides security of helping a child achieve the skills necessary to become responsible, mature adults. The ultimate goal of discipline is to be set as a foundation to help create good behavior and contribute to their well being. Benefits from discipline include the ability to manage emotions and anxiety, safety, and to make better choices. Discipline is crucial part in child development, making it stressful and worrisome to ensure that parenting is demanding, tricky road. (Regaldo, et al.). The future are in the hands of the “rudest generation” otherwise known as the millennial children; the standard for behavior of individuals begins with the household/parents that raise them.
In a nutshell, parenting styles are broken down into four unique types; each style has has a different characteristics and approaches with how discipline is enforced. The first style is authoritarian parent; punishments are used instead of discipline in order for their children to repent for their mistakes. Infamous reasons behind discipline include “because I said so” and “ my way or the highway” (Morin). Rules and consequences are often created with a bias parent view, involving no concern for child’s opinion. Children part of this environment are at higher risk for self-esteem issues, become more aggressive, and often develop the trait of lying to avoid punishment. Child obedience like behavior creates a big cost for parents’ rules.
The second style is authoritative parent; positive relationship is maintained with child along with reasoning behind all rules. (Morin). The child’s feelings are taken into account when setting consequences and adults maintain respective authority. Children are researched as more responsible and successful in this environment.
The third style is permissive parent whereas rules are set but rarely enforced; child will learn the best on their own with only little involvement from parents. “Kids will be kids” approach is often used to justify child’s behavior; parents are quite lenient as they tackle the friend relationship role with their child (Morin). Children who grow up in this environment often struggle academically and with their self esteem as they do not appreciate authority.
The last style is uninvolved, meaning little to no guidance on their children. Children are expected to raise themselves due to whatever personal circumstance caused the parent to lack knowledge about their child. (Morin) Barely any rules are set, child is allowed immense freedom, however parents favor this approach to avoid any conflicts with their child. (Lee) Children with uninvolved parents struggle with self esteem, lack of manners, and perform poorly in school; uninvolved parenting leads to the potential inability of child to navigate through relationships or challenges in life. Each parenting style impacts discipline pattern in child’s life; authoritative parenting style is researched to be the most effective for having a more structural relationship between child and parent. (Brennan)
Parents struggle with how to discipline in accordance to child’s personality; parenting is adjusted to what style and disciplinary actions they desire them to be. Disciplinary methods must match parenting style or else distrust and conflicts begin to flood. (Laskey) The top six disciplinary methods are, natural consequences, non-negotiable arguments, scolding, withholding child privileges, time out , and spanking (Sifferlin). Each are proven to be the most effective strategies to stop undesired behavior at their own pace. The American Academy of Pediatrics favors natural consequences, child learning on their own; for example, if a child continuously throws food on the floor, he/she will learn that the food is longer edible to eat, allowing the child to choose to change his/her ways. “Non-negotiable” arguments using responses when a child cries that an action is “unfair”; responses may be a simple “I know” or along those lines to demonstrate that the parent is standing on firm ground with their decision. Scolding may be a necessity when demanding a child’s attention but must not be used with physical threats or causing any humiliation for the child, otherwise it becomes inadequate. Withholding privileges should be along the lines of valued items or action of the child, not anything obscured like a meal. Time out is viewed as a efficient way to allow a child to properly hand anger and reflect upon their behavior; position a time out area in a corner in a chair or another area where there are no distractions such as toys. The most controversial disciplinary method is spanking; the American Academy of Pediatrics do not recommend this method although is still popularly used. Connotations of spanking may stop bad behavior immediately in the moment but come along with longer consequences of teaching aggression. Methods are all commonly used but there are guidelines to depict what good effective discipline consists of with, contrary to popular belief that spanking is ranked the least with the most negative outcomes.
Maintaining authoritative discipline style creates emotional, long term benefits for the child, although there is difficulty to assert repetitive authority. Certain tips have be minimized to ensure help for creating an efficient plan for disciplining a child. First, decide what techniques fit your child’s temperament and needs. Each child has a different personality that best fits with different techniques, choose a plan that won’t completely change your child as a whole. Second, at an open time, discuss the disciplinary plan with your child and the reasoning behind it; attempt to do this at the earliest age possible to become consistent with disciplinary plans throughout childhood. Do not discuss it once a child is in trouble, otherwise anger is control of punishment. Make sure fore a mutual understanding between child and parent the technique so there aren’t any arguments later about it. Third, always maintain respect; treat the child just as equally as you desire them to treat you. Apologize when things get out of hand, it’ll help the child have more respect for the parent. Fourth, consistency is the key factor to sustain goals of discipline; in other words, do not cave into any bad behavior because of not wanting to implement rules.
Lastly, most important concept is to not overreact to child’s behavior. A child is development and constantly changing that certain components such as stress or lost of sleep may cause temporary mood swings. With each step being done, it can create success in achieving the a parent to achieve their ultimate goal for their child with discipline.
Regalado, Michael, et al. “Parents’ Discipline of Young Children: Results From the National Survey of Early Childhood Health.” Pediatrics, American Academy of Pediatrics, 1 June 2004, pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/113/Supplement_5/1952.full.
The article examines the different disciplinary practices that are commonly used to provide the impact and or effect on a child’s upbringing and development. Each method was analysis from data to provide insight about the positives and negatives among each. The organization is the American Academy of Pediatrics which specializes in children’s health, establishing credibility in knowledge of child internal development. I will use the material as data among each disciplinary method to establish my credibility upon my research.
Sifferlin, Alexandra. “Best Ways to Discipline Kids.” Time, Time, 10 July 2015, time.com/3949328/disciplining-kids/.
The article examines the eight methods of discipline for children. Each method is provided with expert insight to demonstrate effectiveness along with the negative long term impacts upon the child. The article itself was under Time research along with experts to comment under each method, establishing credibility among research. I will use this article to provide context among the common methods used to discipline children.
Brennan, Dan. “Parents, Kids, and Discipline.” WebMD, WebMD, 5 Dec. 2017, www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/discipline-tactics#1.
The article composes of research among key factors to good child behavior, effective disciplinary methods, and guidelines to effective parenting. The article emphasizes the basis of trust between parent and child needed in order for the child to listen and learn more. The authors of the article have a MD, it also has three references of sources from American Academy of Pediatrics: “Parenting Corner Q&A: Discipline,” “Parenting Corner Q&A: Disobedience.”American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry: “Discipline.” and National Mental Health Association. I will use the article to establish how the relationship between parent and child impact the influence and or teaching from discipline.
“Effective Discipline.” Advances in Pediatrics., U.S. National Library of Medicine, 9 Jan. 2004, www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2719514/.
The article describes how great of an impact effective discipline can cause in child development. It provides context on the different methods of discipline as well as the overall goal of it. The article is created from 15 different resources of publishers of book on discipline or those who study in the field of child development. I will use the article to further demonstrate the serious impact discipline has on child development, from internal issues to behavior.
Laskey, B. J., and S. Cartwright‐Hatton. “Parental Discipline Behaviours and Beliefs about Their Child: Associations with Child Internalizing and Mediation Relationships.” Freshwater Biology, Wiley/Blackwell (10.1111), 15 June 2009, onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1365-2214.2009.00977.x.
The article goes into emphasizing common themes of internal problems that run among families, as many struggle to find the root or cause of the problem. However, individuals did not consider about parental discipline that may cause anxiety and internal problems for children. The author is the writer of the book “ Child: Care, Health, and Development”, which is directly researched upon how adolescents are impacted by their environment making it safe to assume that the author conducted much research in the field of child development. I will use the article to maximize the fact that children are strongly affected by the way they are disciplined, as well as the parents too.
Morin, Amy, and Steven Gans. “4 Types of Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Kids.” Verywell Family, Verywellfamily, 29 Mar. 2018, www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045.
The article consists of research among the four common types of parenting – uninvolved, authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Each is categorized with their effects on child development as well as informing the desired audience (parents) about which category their parenting falls under. The article is constructed by four different sources that specialize in discipline and parenting, as well as been reviewed by a professor at Harvard medical school, making it an unbiased review. I will use the articles to provide context on the four main styles of parenting and their effects.
Lee, Katherine. “Find out Why Children Need Discipline.” Verywell Family, Verywellfamily, 22 Mar. 2018, www.verywellfamily.com/surprising-reasons-why-we-need-to-discipline-children-620115.
The article evaluates the concept of “what is discipline?” It brings up the topic about what is the true goal and impact to why we discipline children.