The really well known T.V show sitcom “F.R.I.E.N.D.S” became very popular from 1994-2004. It’s been about 14 years since the tv show ended and yet it’s still the highest rated T.V show on IMDb. This show is relatable, funny, and quirky. Its about six friends living and doing life together. Each character has there own fun personality that makes it easy for anyone to relate to at least one of the characters. This show gives a lot of life lessons that we can all take into consideration. While each character has similar qualities, they also have their differences. One of the main characters on the show named Joey Tribbiani played by the actor Matt Leblanc, taught the audience to be yourself no matter what others think about you.  Rachel Green played by Jennifer Aniston, teaches us if you work hard and you’re confident, you can accomplish anything. Chandler played by Matthew Perry  and Phoebe played by Lisa Kudrow, both teach us that just because you are an adult doesn’t mean you have to grow up.

In society today we see the struggle and competition to look and act a certain way. You see all over tv or social media, girls and guys portraying themselves as what the world would call “perfect”. The bottom line is nobody is perfect and we all can’t look like the models or actors we see on T.V.  “Friends” gives a realistic but entertaining outlook on the reality of life. There is tons of pressure in life that you have to meet certain criteria’s. This T.V show took some of the well known problems in society and used it as a way to encourage people to be who they are despite what everyone says.

Joey knows who he is and isn’t sorry for it.We see in most of the episodes Joey loves food and won’t deny any kind. In the episode “The One With The birth Mother” season 10 episode 9,  Joey goes on a date. His date starts taking his french fries, and we see that Joey hates sharing his food. While this dilemma may be extreme, lets take it with a grain of salt and review that in most episodes Joey has a unbreakable love for food and no matter what people say about him or his weight he embraces who is. In the episode “The One Where Rachel’s Sister Babysits” Rachel’s sister comes into town and pushes her opinions on everyone, being really concerned with looks and self absorbed. She says to Joey “A moment on the lips, forever on the hips.” Joeys response back to her was “I’m curvy and I like it! What a powerful bold message this truly is. Joey stood up for himself despite the opinions of others. As an actor he became a huge influence on society and inspired people to love who they are and accept who they are.

“Acceptance is the turning point of giving up old behaviors that are not working. Acceptance is active process, not resignation. It is embracing reality as the individual experiences it. When we say “embracing” this does not mean liking. To accept a feeling all is needed is to experience it instead of avoiding it”(Adria). We all struggle with this at some point in our life, whether we hate the way we look or where we are at in life.  Something we have to learn is even though we don’t like it we need to embrace it. Sometimes in life we can’t change the situation we are in but we can change the way we think about that situation.

Rachel’s character came from a snobby rich family. When she was introduced on the show her character didn’t know a single thing on how to take care of herself. Everything had been handed to her but she soon realized that if you work hard in life you can accomplish what you desire. For her it was to work in fashion. “Given the opportunity, we could be successful pooling our knowledge, our skills, and our passion for building something brand new” (Goodman). In the episode “the one with Rachel’s inadvertent kiss” season 5 Rachel finally lands a job at “Fortunata Fashion”. She thinks that this is her big break into the fashion world until she soon realizes that she’s an assistant getting coffee for everyone. It wasn’t until in the later seasons she lands a job at Ralph Lauren as an executive. In life we may not get the dream job right away but that doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Sometimes in life we have to be patient and persistent in what is placed in front of us until new opportunities come along.  While sometimes that easier said than done that doesn’t you can have fun along the way.

Life is too short to be serious all the time and sometimes you need a good laugh to keep you going.  This show did a really good job with giving the characters Chandler and Phoebe a light hearted look on life. In one of Chandlers witty saying he says, “ I say more dumb things before 9 A.M than most people say all day.”  With Phoebe’s character we see a free spirited person with a positive outlook on life and always seeing the good in any situation. “Yes, there is a time and place when it’s important to take things seriously. These are times that involve compassion, empathy, and introspection. However, most situations we find ourselves in are actually not worth fussing over. In fact, they are perfect opportunities for taking a lighthearted approach to living” (Sicinski). This is such a valuable life lesson we can all take into consideration when dealing with trials and hard circumstances in life.  Life is a long journey and we just got to enjoy the ride even if its bumpy.

This show is great because of it’s relatable life lessons anyone can take into consideration no matter what is going on in our lives. The show emphasizes on a lot of diversity in society and brings it to light. F.R.I.E.N.D.S inspires people to be and accept who they are. It showed people motivation and confidence can allow you to accomplish your hearts desires.  It allows people to be okay with the fact that we don’t have it all together and sometime you got to be goofy. “Just live your life the way you want. And laugh as much as you can while you’re at it. Especially about yourself”(Foroux). The reason friends is such a great T.V show is because it takes life’s daily struggles and makes entertaining journey.


Annotated Biblography

Goodman, Morris, and Joel Yanofsky. To Make a Difference : A Prescription for a Good Life. MQUP, 2014. EBSCOhost,


Pearson, Adria N., et al. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Body Image Dissatisfaction : A Practitioner’s Guide to Using Mindfulness, Acceptance, and Values-Based Behavior Change Strategies. New Harbinger Publications, 2010. EBSCOhost,


Foroux, Darius.You’re Delirious If You Take Life Serious.Life’s too short for seriousness., 8 August 2016.


Sicinski, Adam.Here’s Why You Need to Stop Taking Life So Seriously. Lifetime Achiever Archives. IQ Matrix.2008.